What Can We Learn From Losing

  • 16 Nov, 2016

There are so many lesson we can all learn from losing. Everyone likes to win when they compete and we learn far less lessons when we do so. It’s no secret that athletes hate losing. Of course, I am referring to those athletes who are 13 years old an older. For the younger players, it doesn’t really matter if they win or lose because the focus is on development.

As far as losing a game, we always have a sour taste in our month and think of what we could have done differently. We can learn a book from losing once we clear our minds and can think straight. We can’t let our past failures be in control of our current actions. We will never grow or develop a positive mindset that will allow us to grow.

I do remember that in my last college year of playing, our team did very poorly. We had a talented team but somehow we couldn’t win many games. We lost many games in the last 10-15 min of play but we always fought regardless the outcome. At the college level the expectations are high and the emphasis are mainly on winning. In order to survive, you need to win. I learned so many lessons during my last year of playing in college.

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Also, as a coach I did lose many games in the past. So you look back and you ask yourself what did not work. How you could fix it and so on. So what are some important lessons we can learn from losing? I will share with you what I learned so far and I hope it can better help you prepare for your battles.

  • When you lose the reflections on yourself are way more powerful
  • Losing showed me that I had to work even harder
  • Losing prepared me on how to deal with rejections and dissapointments
  • I am a better coach now because of all the games I lost in the past
  • The lessons you learn from losing are invaluable
  • Losing games made me mentally tougher
  • Losing showed me that all the details matter and plans can always change
  • In  life we don’t always win, so losing is sometimes healthy for us
  • If you don’t know how to lose with class, you can’t win with flair
  • Losing tested and build a strong character
  • Losing gave me more hunger and desire to work harder to succeed
  • Losing gave me the power, strength and motivation to never give up regardless of the outcome
  • Losing tested my character on how I deal and treat others while I was under pressure
  • If you can deal with losing, you can overcome all your obstacles in sports and life
  • Losing helps us understand what we need to improve most on
  • Losing reminds us that we are human and mistakes can happen
  • It’s not how you lose a game, but rather how you deal with it

I am sure there are many other lessons that can be learned from losing. Our stories and the journey is different so we all have taken different paths. Players can always learn from losing but most importantly is to remember that what does’ kills us makes us stronger.

At one point in life, we all had to deal with failures, championship losses, family losses and so on. Those experiences have somehow changed us and shaped who we are today. Just imagine for a second a player who hasn’t lost many games in his career. That player will have an extremely difficult time when s/he will lose a game or competition. Mentally, they will have a hard time dealing and overcoming disappointments because they haven’t failed much in the past.

In the future don’t be afraid of failing be afraid of not trying. Have the courage to try, fail and do it all over again till you make it. Never give up on your dreams no matter how bad you have failed or lost. This is just a test to see how much girt you have to persevere and accomplish your dreams.

Author @Nicolae Popescu

Nicolae Popescu is a former NCAA D1 full-scholarship student-athlete and the Founder of WeGotPlayers. He has experienced first-hand the complex college recruiting process himself. Nicolae' s knowledge, skills and sports expertise make him a valuable contributor in helping guide players and parents to find the right school fit. He is passionate about coaching, mentoring and positively influencing players succeed in their sports journey and life thru the power of education and technology.
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